Amit Tandon: "I was more wrong than Ruby when the marriage was falling apart, wasn’t ready to give her the emotional support"

Amit Tandon and his wife Ruby had hit a rough patch in their marriage. Their differences were s vast that they filed for a divorce. Amidst this, Ruby was arrested in Dubai in 2017 and Amit Tandon rushed to her aid. They then realised that they are still a family and decided to give their wedding a second chance by retrieving the divorce. Now, Amit has opened up about that phase.

Talking to ETimes, Amit said, "Neither of us was happy and we even discussed it. We stopped making efforts to save our marriage. What we don’t realise is that separation and divorce don’t just affect you, but also your child and your respective families and friends. To be honest, I tasted success at a young age and felt invincible (smiles!). I felt that I could do anything. I have made mistakes… I have done things I am not proud of. Looking back, I feel all those mistakes were taking my wife away from me. Ruby came to me with complete love… she had left everything to be with me. I won’t say I didn’t value it, but I feel that we got married at an early age. I got married at 27. I wasn’t mature then. The maturity set in six years later when I started to realise the importance of family, especially after the birth of my child. Par ek baar do logo ke beech mein daraar aa jaye and if you don’t fix it, the situation goes out of hand. So, though we were together, the gap had started widening. We stopped making efforts to save our marriage."

He also blamed 'friends' who abandoned Ruby when she needed help and said, "There was a time when she was emotionally broken. Some people, who claimed to be our best friends, abandoned us. But everything changed between us when she saw me standing by her as family. We also realised that humne bohot zyada ehmiyat unn doston ko dee jinhone hamaare beech ke issues and fights ko instigate kiya rather than help us resolve them. You tend to get influenced by people around you and that’s what caused the rift between us."

Amit also added, "I was more wrong than Ruby when the marriage was falling apart. I wasn’t ready to give her the emotional support she was expecting from me. I’ve always been in love with the idea of being in love, but I have found it difficult to build an emotional connection and that includes my previous relationships, too. Jo ek shaadi mein aap k partner se expectations hoti hain woh kisi hadd tak main nahi fulfill kar paaya. Eventually, there came a point when we wanted to rebuild the connection, but both of us had drifted apart. I was selfish in a way, but I realised it before it was too late. I feel fortunate that my life came back in order. Sabko second chance nahi milta and I am glad that ki hamein woh mila aur humne nibhaaya. We decided ki jo hua so hua but now, we will start from scratch and do it the right way. We will discuss our problems and be honest with each other."

Amit and Ruby are also parents to a daughter and we are glad that they have gotten back together and emerged stronger.